11th March 2024
Keywords: mindset, positive, positive thinking, relationships, comfort zones, feelings, emotions, empowerment, individuality, vulnerability, reframing, being present, self-discovery, growth, energy, vibes, universe, spirituality

Episode Summary

1. Positivity: Transforming your mindset for a brighter future

Change your mindset into positive thinking. Instead of looking back at past experiences and trauma and feeling the negative emotions, learn to focus on the good. What did you learn from that past mistake? You learnt that you’re strong, confident, brave – all good emotions. Hold onto that the next time you feel like you’re spiraling again. Positivity is the only way you’re going to grow and let go.

2. Embracing the Now: Overcoming fear & self-sabotage

I’m always crippled by my self sabotaging thoughts. It’s my fight or flight response. Whenever I’m happy, I want to run. I want to hide my emotions, and not face them. I don’t think I deserve to be happy. So it’s all about telling yourself no, I do deserve to be loved, happy, feel all the good emotions. Why listen to those self sabotaging thoughts? Live in the present. Don’t trip yourself up by thinking “I’m only going to get hurt”. You don’t know that. Live in the good feelings now, tomorrow. You never know what might happen.

Living in the present is actually easier said that done. Turn off tomorrow’s worries, and focus on what is good in your life right now.

Who knows? You might get hurt. But for now, you’re thriving, so hold onto that.

3. Relationships: The art of trust + individuality

I have learnt that so many people get lost in relationships. I did. I thought that was what a relationship was meant to be; I poured everything into it and in the process, I lost myself completely. Now I know that relationships are supposed to be two-way, and they are supposed to consist of two separate people, two separate entities. That is the only way they can be successful.

It’s scary to dive into new relationships, new friendships, new experiences. It’s scary to let your guard down again because you’re afraid you will only get hurt. Don’t be crippled by the fear and instead focus on the excitement of getting to know someone. Trust is the number one component in any relationship, so when you do let your guard down, it shows that you do trust them and that this time will be different.

Through self-discovery, I have learnt it is so important to stand up for yourself, and this especially relates to relationships – romantic or not. If something feels off, stand up for yourself, tell them how you feel. Don’t feel like you don’t have a voice – because you always do.

4. From Negativity to Empowerment: Lessons learnt & personal growth

Reflect on past experiences and transform negativity into empowerment and personal growth. Explore the lessons learned from challenging situations and setbacks, reframing them as opportunities for growth and resilience. Learn how to cultivate a growth mindset and embrace failure as a stepping stone to success. Discover the power of self-reflection and self-awareness in overcoming obstacles and achieving your goals.

5. The Journey of Self-discovery

Your path is always going to be different to others. Even if you feel like you are on the same life path as your best friend, you won’t be. Why? Because every single person is unique. Isn’t that exciting?

Use this time to focus on yourself, on growing, on (eventually) thriving. It’s good to prioritise yourself. When you put out good energy into the world, you receive good energy – it is simple physics, whether or not you believe in the Law of Attraction.

If you want to know more about this, Vex King has a brilliant book called Good Vibes; Good Life, that explains this better than I ever could!

6. Choosing Growth: Turning fear into fuel for a fulfilling life

Being scared is good – it means we are stepping out of our comfort zones and propelling our journey of self-discovery. Dive into those new emotions, because you never know where it might take you. Self-discovery is hard, but so is staying in the same place. So choose the hard option; learn that being scared can lead to beneficial outcomes.

7. Conclusion

The transformative power of positive thinking is a beacon that illuminates the path to a more fulfilling life. By changing our mindset to embrace positivity, we unlock a cascade of benefits, fostering resilience and a greater sense of well-being. Living in the present becomes a conscious choice, enabling us to savor each moment and break free from the chains of the past or anxieties about the future. Embracing new relationships and emotions, free from the clutches of self-sabotage, is an act of courage that opens doors to personal growth and meaningful connections. Allowing ourselves to feel the good, unencumbered by doubt or fear, becomes a key to unlocking joy and authenticity in our journey. In this mindset shift, we discover the remarkable potential within ourselves to cultivate a positive, present-focused, and emotionally enriching life.

8. Journal Prompt

Who do you want to become? Write down whatever comes to your mind first. From there, create a mindmap of all the little things: from your personality, to your job, to your relationship status. Through this you will create a vision board, something to look at when you’re feeling lost. This exercise will help you build up that future and become the person you want to be, not what others make you out to be.