I hate how nowadays more and more girls are becoming obsessed with their body image and being “skinny“, me included. Every day we are surrounded by the ideals of how we should look and it’s highly detrimental, and over the last few months I have gone back and forth with “I look skinny today” and “geez, I look fat“. I’m certain every girl does that, it’s normal, but that doesn’t make it OK.
What is the definition of beauty?
To me, even if some days I don’t believe this, it is about being exactly who you are, inside and out. You are the one you have to live with, and so comparing yourself to others, as easy as it is to do so today with so many social media platforms like TikTok that only showcase the ‘pretty skinny’ girls, is not going to get you to where you need to be. Learn to love yourself first, that it is the fundamental thing.
We constantly compare ourselves to those girls on Instagram or TikTok, and it’s not fair to ourselves. We should be kinder and allow ourselves to be ourselves. Just because we are not skinny, why can’t we be pretty? Why can’t we love ourselves?
Those girls on those social media platforms choose when to upload their photos or videos, just like we do, to when they look their “skinniest.” I do that too on Snapchat for example, because why would we want to post something when we don’t look our best? It’s important to remember that social media just gives us one side of everything. A single photo can represent so much, like hours of posing to get the right angle where you don’t look fat, or to get the light hitting your face exactly in the right place. We don’t see what goes on behind the camera. Sucking and breathing in is what all photos are nowadays, as well as FaceTune, and refining the waist or enlarging the booty. It’s fair to say that we are all guilty at providing an illusion on social media with some photos that don’t really look like us. If you haven’t done this, big resect to you.
Why should every girl look the same? All the same size, with golden skin, long straight hair, big white teeth. Smiling. We have the right to have our down days, especially when it comes to your body. Being a female, our bodies fluctuate daily, or even throughout the day. I can go from thin to overweight with just a glass of water! The pressure that we put on ourselves in society in general and online is not good. How on Earth are we all meant to feel better about ourselves when we are all constantly putting each other down? In order for the stigma about body image in teen girls to change, we must all do better. We need to support each other, share each others’ journeys, and spread positivity and kindness, because it’s fair to say that we all get down about our bodies.
Somedays we feel good and feel “skinny”, other days we want to cry and cry because all we do is eat and not do exercise, for a fine example during this isolation period, but that’s normal! Crying about body image and feeling like you’re not good enough is part of the process of learning to love yourself. But remember that being who you are is exactly good enough – do not let the society or anyone, anyone tell you that you are not allowed to have your insecurities or tell you that you are not good enough. Spending lots of time on social media (especially TikTok) is really, really not good either, because that’s what is making us feel bad about our bodies sometimes – because now we have more time to sit and compare myself to others, during this lockdown period.
Here’s the message: instead of joining in in today’s hateful society (especially online), do your part in supporting others, particularly when it comes to body image and our friends’ journeys with that. Raise awareness for that fact that we are all fighting through this challenge of comparison and self confidence. And most importantly, learn to love yourself for who you are.